Conflict Management

All couples experience conflict, but you can learn how manage conflict and form compromises in a healthy, productive way.

Seriously. What’s the Point of Marriage?

Nate Bagley

The point of marriage is not happiness. The point of marriage is growth.

How to Give Effective Feedback in the Workplace

Chris Dollard

I communicated irregularly with a tendency to criticize, but learning how to communicate assertively ended that pattern.

Transforming Criticism into Wishes: A Recipe for Successful Conflict

Kyle Benson

For conflict conversations to succeed, you must state your feelings as neutrally as possible and transform any complaint about your partner into a positive need.

There Are Two Views to Every Conflict and Both Are Valid

Kyle Benson

You don't have to agree, but you do need to show respect for your partner's opinions.

Help Your Partner Understand Your Side of the Conflict in 3 Steps

Kyle Benson

Here's how to get your partner to attune to you during conflict.

Mastering Marriage Conflict with Mulligans

Jon Beaty

Dr. Gottman has discovered that successful marriages use repair attempts like golfers use mulligans.

4 Typical Solvable Relationship Problems

Kyle Benson

Here’s how to make everyday conflict less draining.

How to Make Repair Attempts So Your Partner Feels Loved

David and Constantino Khalaf

The success of a repair attempt has a lot to do with how well it's tailored towards your partner.

A Couple’s Guide to Complaining

Jon Beaty

Dr. John Gottman has refined the skill of effective complaining down to a simple, three-part formula.

How to Avoid the Pursuer-Distancer Pattern in Your Relationship

Steve Horsmon

Intimacy and independence require each other to make a whole.

In Relationships, Not Arguing Means You’re Not Communicating

Lisa Brookes Kift

Silence is destructive.

How to Handle Anger in Your Relationship

Sanaa Hyder

Next time you get angry, stop and think about why you’re angry.

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