Conflict Management

All couples experience conflict, but you can learn how manage conflict and form compromises in a healthy, productive way.

Does Flooding Play a Role in Your Perpetual Conflict?

Kari Rusnak

Is your fight-or-flight response keeping you stuck in an unhealthy cycle of conflict?

4 Mindful Listening Principles to Better Navigate Conflict

Gillian Florence Sanger

How can you practice listening in ways that helps your relationship effectively move through whatever challenge it’s facing?

How To Change Your Own Contempt

Ken Fremont-Smith

You may not even be aware of how you are acting or speaking out of contempt—often it can feel like you are being genuine. Dr. John Gottman realized there needs to be a path that leads to a culture of appreciation, and that is by expressing your feelings and longings.

Opinion: Gottman’s Four Rules and the Need for Diversity

Shantel Patu

Listen to the women. Listen to the people of color.

The Pursuer-Distancer Dynamic

Terry Gaspard

While all couples need autonomy and closeness, many partners struggle with the pursuer-distancer dance and feel chronically dissatisfied with their degree of intimacy. When the pattern of pursuing and distancing becomes ingrained, the behavior of one partner provokes and maintains the behavior of the other.

Discovering Dr. Gottman as a Conflict Resolution Professional

The Gottman Institute

When it comes to resolving conflict, sometimes even experts need an expert

Do Trial Separations Work?

Terry Gaspard

Can a relationship benefit from taking a break? It all comes down to outlining clear intentions, communication, and goals.

Can Words Really Hurt Me?

Shantel Patu

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but can words really hurt me?

What to Do if You Don’t Trust Each Other

Terry Gaspard

A therapist shares seven ways to build trust in your relationship.

How We Used the Aftermath of a Fight to Repair Our Relationship

Kyle Benson

Every conflict offers an opportunity for a deeper understanding.

A Vacation Survival Guide for Couples

David and Constantino Khalaf

If you haven't travelled together as a couple, do it as soon as possible.

It’s Okay to Go to Bed Angry

David and Constantino Khalaf

You can love better tomorrow, even if it’s difficult today.

A Happier Relationship Starts Today

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