Conflict Management

All couples experience conflict, but you can learn how manage conflict and form compromises in a healthy, productive way.

‘It’s Not My Fault!’: Why Defensiveness is Damaging

Cheryl Fraser

Don’t get defensive. Do this instead.

Get Back on Track During Conflict

The Gottman Institute

Turn arguments around and manage conflict with a few simple phrases.

What are Your Core Beliefs and Needs? (and why it’s important to identify them)

Elizabeth Earnshaw

When it comes to conflict, knowing the issue underneath the problem is half the battle.

Managing Conflict through Friendship

Sinead Smyth

If you want to have better fights, be better friends.

Blame, Resentment, and Negative Sentiment Override

Jinashree Rajendrakumar

"Why does my partner hate me?"

The Dark Side of Anger: What Every Couple Should Know

Robert Navarra

It is easier to handle those emotions when we understand what is underneath them.

“Is It Ever Okay to Argue in Front of the Kids?”

Melissa Benaroya

It’s not a matter of “should you argue” but “how you argue.”

After the Argument: How to Begin Again

Cheryl Fraser

Tools for making up instead of breaking up

Finding Harmony in Relationship Conflict

Robyn Blake-Mortimer

Can a Gottman therapist help these musicians sing the same tune?

Compromise: It’s Not What You Think!

Ken Fremont-Smith

When your desires are in conflict, reconsider what you both really need.

How to Have a State of the Union Meeting

Kimberly Panganiban

The one conversation you must have every week for a healthy relationship

Protecting Your Relationship: Practices for Making Effective Repairs

Nicole Schiener

Tuning into yourself can help you repair after conflict.

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