Love & Relationships

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The Loneliness of Wanting Your Partner

Alexander Elguren

Why partners can miss sex and still pull away from each other—and how to begin talking about it.

When AI Makes Couples More Certain, But Not More Connected

Dana McNeil

AI can offer relationship advice, but can it build connection? Explore how relying on AI may reinforce assumptions rather than foster understanding between partners.

A Sensitive Question in a Long Marriage: What Turns You On Now?

Alexander Elguren

What longtime partners can learn about intimacy after 50.

The Price of Keeping the Peace

Alexander Elguren

He Said the Money Was for Client Dinners. It Wasn’t.

Out of Touch: A Couple’s Way Back to Desire

Alexander Elguren

Are we trying too hard to have more sex? How couples can make room for pleasure without adding pressure.

We Agreed. Why Are We Having This Argument Again?

Alexander Elguren

In relationship conflict, we often start persuading before we’ve finished listening. Understanding the three stages of a fight can change how we handle the next one.

Who Has to Calm Down First?

Alexander Elguren

One partner wants to keep talking. The other can’t take in another word. How couples can practice emotional regulation when they disagree about how to disagree.

5 Admin Tasks Stealing Therapist’s Time

Lauren Turnbull

Discover the 5 admin tasks that take up therapists’ time and practical strategies to streamline your practice, reduce burnout, and focus on clients.

Have We Been Thinking About Fidelity Too Narrowly?

Alexander Elguren

Micro-cheating is a newer term. John Gottman has long described the betrayals we overlook when we think only about affairs.

When Therapy Speak Becomes a Weapon

Dana McNeil

When couples start labeling one another with 'therapy speak', the therapist must intervene and teach couples to use it productively.

How a Coffee-Shop Friendship Can Turn Into Emotional Cheating

Alexander Elguren

He told himself it was innocent. He didn't tell his wife.

The Sex Stopped. Neither of Them Said Anything.

Alexander Elguren

Why revealing yourself matters more than revealing lingerie.

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